Mar 12, 2006

Self Promotion:



I'm just spreading the word on the new collection and would love for you guys to take a look and pass it around to those that love jewelry as much as I do! This is from my Ibisco Collection of Kitten Couture! It's pretty reasonably priced and I am always updating stuff - so sign up for the email list so that you can know of special promotions that we are running!
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Kimmie
CEO/Designer ~ Kitten Couture
Exec Producer & Hostess ~ Kitten Lounge
http://www.sikara.com

What Have We Been Up To?

Hiya,

I am on MySpace (and that means actively working on putting items up there and sharing some thoughts. I am going to try and streamline all my blogs to this site. But you may have to go back and forth between the two. So, to get started - I officially completed my season with the Metro Stars as a cheerleader (although they are now Red Bull NY). That answers that lingering question that I was sent. In addition, I took up a position as a Visual Merchandising Manager at Abercrombie & Fitch on 5th Ave since the last time that I posted. It's a lot of fun and I have learned a lot since I have been there.

Also I started focusing a lot on Kitten Couture which will have a fashion show during Fashion Week and I have started preparing the third season of Kitten Lounge. This season it's all my faves - Electonica and Jazz music with musings about fashion! So I am always looking for submissions and I have plans to podcast this Internet show as well.

I am trying to think of the appropriate direction for this blog. I want to talk about the day to day of fashion and also how I am taking everything else. I think that the most important thing that people like to know is how do you go about doing what you do, what resources did you utilize and how do you feel. There are a lot of books on how to do something in theory but anyone starting a new venture knows that there is a huge gap between how we would like to start out and how we actually do!

I'm in a period of organizing and getting siked about everything that I am working on so I will let you know! Right now I am organizing the Fashion Show which is slated for Fashion Week this Sept on the 19th. I am in the process of getting sponsors. It's interesting, you know that you need to get money to put an event on and you also want product for goodie bags so your guests have something to take with them, but finding what about your event makes it lucrative to a company is always interesting. So, after creating a press release and my sponsor request - I will have these distributed via mail (most people don't want requests sent via email).

Who did I ask? Well, I took products and companies that I enjoy using and that I believe would be interested in my business. Seeing that I operate within resort wear - I like to pick beauty products, healthy items, those within the travel industry and luxury products. I believe that the same people that love these products would love mine and that these companies can present themselves in front of the same demographic while obtaining fringe markets that they may not have been able to reach. We'll see how it goes! You can also see my progress at http://www.sikara.com/shows.html which will be updated as new people sign on.

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Kimmie
CEO/Designer Kitten Couture
Exec Producer & Hostess ~ Kitten Lounge
http://www.sikara.com

Apr 17, 2005

Temps are Rising

Nothing is better then the first day of flip flop season and when you can shed your coat for items that are much lighter than what we've been sporting as of late! So yesterday, for all the soccer fans, we had our second game which was another draw. But it was warmer and sunnier (not to say that there wasn't a chill running through us - but no complaints in comparisson to last game). I was able to walk to congressman (please don't ask me who) with a fellow Metro Girl to kick the first ball. It was a lot of fun and we could see ourselves on the HUGE screen. We even made a human tunnel for the players when they got on the field. I can say with all surety that our duties will be even more fun when the weather co-operates with our assigned agendas. I also must say that I love the fans. It is so much fun to sign autographs and see cute little girls and boys get super siked when we sign something for them. Especially those that have come to the last home games because it wasn't the warmest of weathers. I know that all of the team has been talking about how much they love hanging out in the fans stand cheering, learning more about everything and just being in this super charged environment. Outside of the world of sports --

I went to a very cool lounge this weekend, Libation with my boyfriend which was a lot of fun because we could casually sit, dance and just enjoy one another's company. It seemed like all week had been running from one casting call and design event to another. Once again not complaining because being busy is always good but you respect the times when you don't have to be! Also it helps that you can temporarily get away from it all with a day at the park, some yummie foods from a corner vendor (which seems to taste the best when it is warmer). I don't know if I added this in a previous post but, I have become the dating editor of Big Apple Style so people somehow have come to love my advice and now they will have another place to find it. As far as the line goes, we are still putting together a kick ass event for Fashion Week and trying to find the best venue for it. So if those of you are promoters let me know and I would love to hear your ideas. I believe that that's about it but I wanted to check in and say hello. For those in NYC and in NJ, we have a Friday game for the Metro Stars as Giant Stadium so that's on the 22nd and I hope that it will be super warm. I will be going to Vegas for a few days and will have to report back on that one for everyone. Also towards the end of this month, I hope to have great news of somewhere else that you can catch me as well :)

Much Love

Kimmie
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Kimmie
Founder & Designer SDG~Kitten
Exec Producer & Hostess ~ Kitten Lounge
http://www.sikara.com/kitten.html

Apr 6, 2005

Odds & Ends But The Love is Always There ....

Once again, I am promising that there will be more regularity to my blog! But today I have a lot of odds and ends that I wanted to share and without knowing where to beging first, I'm just grabbing whatever first comes to mind! First off, the Metro Stars kicked off their first game of the season on 04.02.05. Although it was super rainy and windy the Metro Girls had a great time meeting the fans and getting to know one another. It was amazing how much people embraced this new addition to the team and I am glad that I was able to be a part of it. Nothing was better then taking pictures with the fans and getting people to get to know more about us! So to my Metro Girls' sisters I give huge hugs and I can't wait to see you guys next game!!!

In additional news, Kitten by Sikara Designs Group just participated in a photoshoot that will be updated on the site very soon. This means that you will definitely see a variety of items on the site that were not there and launches our official spokesmodel of the line as well. As we get closer to Fashion Week, you will see a lot more info in relation to where the show will be in NYC and how you can become a part of it. This is going to be a lot of fun since the line will have been out for a year, I will be celebrating my birthday and of course new pieces of the line will be revealed - concluding in a fun after party where we can all just kick back after all the hard work has been done.

As you know I have my own radio show, but I also have signed on to Big Apple Style.net to write about relationships and other material that surrounds this issue. I think you guys will want to check it out but you should still check in here every so often so that you can hear random thoughts that may not make it on to the site. If you are not familiar with this site - it is the guide of NYC. From having reviews on restaurants and lounges, there are also interviews from a variety of artists and actors. In addition, it is all about fashion which is definitely why I have been a reader for the past year. To be asked to bring my know how to this site is an honor and I look forward to sharing my experiences and knowledge with you guys and of course making sure to bring in elements involving fashion and entertainment as well.

Outside of this what else? Today's weather was absolutely amazing! It was 70 some degrees and I was actually able to open my windows and feel cool breezes. It seems like just yesterday that I had to bundle up in way too many layers of clothing. I know we are not completely out of the woods but this was something that made me remember why I love the city when it's warm.

For all of those out there that are models - this week seems like a huge week for casting for shows at MTV and VH1 so kudos to those that are trying to get on these shows. I know that I have been asked to attend some castings and will be a part of some audience scenes as well which is equally as exciting.

How could I forget?? In addition to soccer starting - baseball is here. This is one of my favorite sports so I am definitely pleased about this. Already I have had friends play hookie from work and school to go to the games and how you can blame them - great weather, hotdogs and Derek Jeter hehe. Well, this was just me catching up on what's going on with me and what I know people are doing in general. I am apartment hunting again so I am definitely moving at the end of the year and I am in the middle of planning my vacation to the Bahamas so any suggestions on must see places - feel free to leave them here :). Much Love to everyone and I'll be on here more frequently letting you guys know what's going on with me. For those in NYC check out this club that I have been a member of for like a year but am going to my first event this month. It's called the Lunch Club.net. People get together with the same interests and go to lunch, special activities, etc and it's a way to expand your network of friends while being with people that share your interests. I have always thought that it was a cool idea but I never had the time and I was a bit nervous to walk in completely cold but in an effort to throw myself into new environments and to be comfortable with it, I will be venturing out so we shall see what I think about this. I think it will be fun. I love meeting people and going to new places so this is going to be a nice change.

Much Love

Kimmie
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Kimmie
Founder & Designer SDG~Kitten
Exec Producer & Hostess ~ Kitten Lounge
http://www.sikara.com

Mar 23, 2005

Do You Love Soccer?

Do you love soccer? I have always liked it but now I must say that I LOVE it. Maybe it's purely selfish but, I just became a Metro Girl which is the cheerleading counterpart to Major League Soccer's - NY Metro Stars that plays at Giant Stadium. I am super excited to be joining the 10 other girls on the team and cheering and meeting fans throughout the 2005 season!

On Mon, as a part of our official duties, we were introduced during 'Media Day' and were able to meet a variety of newspapers throughout the state of NJ and NY. I couldn't believe how crazy it was! Not only was this my first experience at being in front of cameras on that level, I didn't realize how full of press, execs and the team would make BB Kings when we were presented on stage. Our first game is on the 2nd of April at our home owner and I can't wait to meet you guys and learn much more about the game!
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Kimmie
Founder & Designer SDG~Kitten
Exec Producer & Hostess ~ Kitten Lounge
http://www.sikara.com/kitten.html

Feb 9, 2005

My First Time ...

I thought I would check in with everyone and say how I siked I was in regards to my very first Fashion Week experience! Today I saw Christos' new line of waist jewelry! Of course we think about adorning our necks but how about making some pizzaz for our waists as well. Many of these items had amazing embellishments, fur and much more. Definitely something that was unique. In addition to the pieces, the girls chosen to wear these items were as radiant as the pieces. When I have all the pics, I will post some on the site and let you guys check it out for yourselves.

This was the first of many collaborations between Kitten and Big Apple Style. It was interesting when we took pictures at Bryant Park - how other photographers came by to see who we were and what we were up to! So of course she explained that she was the Editor of her magazine and that I was the founder and designer of Kitten and of course people thought that we were twins; however, they had to be satisfied with the fact that we are only sisters.

Just being there definitely got me thinking about September's Fashion Week and elements of the new line that will be introduced for Spring/Summer 2006. I am also beginning to have an open call for models for future shows, photoshoots and much more so definitely feel free to email me in regards to what you would like to do. If you want to hang out in person, come to the Big Six on Friday nights - 8:00 - 11:00pm on 97 Bowery! Not only is there great music and our friendly bartender Hara but you will be able to network with many people that are looking to meet other people in the city while also getting a chance to get to know me as well.

I can't believe how fast this month is going but we are that much closer to the summer which is always fine by me!

Much Love

Kimmie
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Kimmie
Founder & Designer SDG~Kitten
Exec Producer & Hostess ~ Kitten Lounge
http://www.sikara.com/kitten.html

Feb 8, 2005

Spreadin' the Love

I am super siked about recent developments with Kitten! The prototypes look great with a lot of the designs that will be released this spring/summer. I promised some pics but they can't be released just yet but know that they are hot and you will definitely want to snatch them up!

On the personal front, can you believe that it is almost Valentine's Day? It seems like the year is already zipping by and we have barely begun. I love this time of year - right now it's not too chilly, the magazines are already showing summer sneak peaks and you don't mind leaving your house to go out and about. I am setting up this year's Valentine's extravaganza for my boyfriend and I and am still deciding between the details. If anyone can help me in regards to awesome spas or restaurants in NYC, it would be much appreciated.

Feel free to stop by and say hello whether you are coming from Blogger or whether you are coming from my site at Sikara. Also, does anyone know how we can create a link page on this site??? I would love to add links of my favorite blogs or something of that nature. As promised, I am going to make more of an effort to write more - it could be purely random or it could be something that's really interesting. For those of you out there that love good reading, I have a great site that I would love to tell you about so once I figure out the links I will make that list available so you guys can read this amazing online novel!!


Much Love

Kimmie
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Kimmie
Founder & Designer SDG~Kitten
Exec Producer & Hostess ~ Kitten Lounge
http://www.sikara.com/kitten.html

New Effort ....

Ok,

So I am definitely making a new effort to write more frequently within this. It helps since I have a lot more going on and I welcome any comments that you guys may have out there. So the first huge thing is for those of you that may not be aware, I launched my fashion line Kitten, 'resort inspired activewear embellished with Swarovski Crystals for those who wish to run errands, brunch with the girls and to go out on a night on the town'. I did this in a big way by producing and hosting the Kitten & Co Fashion Show and Kitten After Party on 09.14.04 @ Azaza during Fashion Week in NYC. It was amazing to see people from all over the music industry attending the event and spreading the love!

The thing about doing a major event is that after all the planning you feel like at the conclusion you are at a loss for what to do next. I followed up my event with a breast cancer event 'Fight for Pink' @ Mission in Oct, that showcased my line and had amazing musical talent from Universal Records (and yes I organized this event as well).

So this kind of brings me to currently what I am up to ... Kitten will be featured in the 'Fete de L'Amour' Fashion Show at Monmouth University in NJ later on this month. This is awesome because I will be showing Kitten with many new items such as the Diva Collection and also handbags which is something very new for me.

In March I will be providing a set entitled 'Adored by Kitten' for the Israel Humanitarian Foundation which is a Spring Fashion Show that will be held at Avalon in NYC! My items will share the same space as Isaac Mizrahi, Marc Jacobs and more on the runway which is very big for an indie designer!

Of course as my news continues to grow, I have signed on for a Fashion Trunk Show in Philly in May that will allow me to increase my base outside of the city! Once again huge and I'm super siked about this. So that's the new info regarding Kitten.

Over the past few months, people wondered where they could hang out with me and now I have a home of sorts at the Big Six every Fri night from 8:00pm - 11:00pm on 97 Bowery. This is intended as a networking event for those that wish to meet other people in the city and since I am the hostess, I encourage people that are models, designers and photographers and more to come out because it's a great way to meet others in your industry. Also, I am in the process of organizing my photo shoot for new items coming out and although I love posting on Craigslist, I would love to meet you guys in person to put the name, face and personality together. Speaking of that, I did obtain a spokesmodel for 2005, Dorian a fellow model and singer/songwriter who will be in Lucky Magazine later this year and a lot of you will get to know her as well.

On the personal front, I am still modeling here and there and have done some TV stuff which was fun and as the months go on, I can't wait to let you in on somethings that are in the works. Until then, I encourage you guys to continue to visit my site, sign up for the newsletters and I just obtained a new address book online which I think will be really nice to keep info for those designers and models that are interested! If you have a question, let me know and send some love my way too.

Much Love

Kimmie
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Kimmie
Founder & Designer SDG~Kitten
http://www.sikara.com/kitten.html

One More Thing!!!

There will be pics within the next blogs which I'm siked about so don't fret about not seeing anything on my blog just yet. I thought I would add that as a side note.

Finally, the Kitten Lounge started its new season so you will hear the best of alternative rock, r&b and much much more. We will be covering a lot of great bands and attending the venues - you can also check out various shows that are in the NYC area by visiting the main website. As you know, the Kitten Lounge merges the best in fashion and entertainment. Make sure you check out first Wed's to hear from our contributing Style Guru, Dori, from Big Apple Style. In March, she will be recapping on her experiences during Feb's Fashion Week and other information.


Much Love,

Kimmie
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Kimmie
Founder & Designer SDG~Kitten
http://www.sikara.com

Apr 2, 2004

What's at Stake in the Loop?

The "water cooler" is one of those images that are synonomous with being in the know, a part of whatever crowd you gather with or believe yourself to be and as each hand downs a cup of water, there are power struggles and trades going throughout the group. Who knew such an innocent thirst quencher could be the source of so much angst?

There are those that dominate the cooler. They are Ms Gossip to the "T". They know the demise of the office romance before it even begins and they know the real reason behind Ken in Marketing's lack of promotion. If it's in the inner walls of the office, she is your go to girl. There there are those that seem to lead the double agent life, by day they are Ms. Ordinary working at a series of files; however, at night they live the life of someone glamorous or connected to someone who is. Either way, they have that juicy info that makes you wonder if they should be writing for the Post or the Star.

It seems so effortless. Everyday as the crowd goes everyone throws in their two cents about the day in general but the conversation stops when Ms Gossip and Ms Ordinary enter the group. They know that something scandalous will be shared - in fact it is expected. As everyone goes back to their desks to mull over these comments, it makes you wonder what happens to Ordinary and Gossip? Do they spend a large chunk of the day making sure they maintain their positions in knowing the ins and outs? Do they ever have one of those days where they're off - either there's no news or maybe they had to attend to something else? Is it like in school when the lack of "hot news" made you feel that your position was waning? These thoughts and more entered my head when someone once asked me, "Everytime I ask you something, you always say you know". I wondered and thought hmmm I know a lot of people who know information due to their jobs at various places and they feel the need to share. But have I joined them as well in my need to share a tidbit in an effort to display my "inside track"?

As a closing thought, we all gossip and feel the need to bring info that has yet to be heard to someone. But if you find that you constantly feel the need to make your "position known" just think about how it comes across to others and why you feel the need to do so. You could be like me - I feel the need to share because you initiated a conversation that is along the lines of something that I heard. Just as it can be looked upon negatively when you ALWAYS seem to scoop someone first, the lack of giving out piping hot news can also make people wonder as well. In short, there is no happy medium.

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Kimmie
Founder Sikara Designs
http://www.sikara.com

Mar 22, 2004

When is it Too Much?

Upon talking with a friend of a friend I was struck by the amount of advice that people enjoy dishing out. Somehow everyone is able to see your "soon to be pitfalls" and how you are already heading down a disastorous path. I always adhered to the thought that if you have had previous relationships that you didn't like and found a common pattern, you should change them. So after three previous relationships with less then desirable outcomes, I decided to make a series of tweaks. I was pleased that being the new "mature" me that I wrote a list of qualities that I liked and didn't like to help me in my quest. I even attemtped to realistically look at what part I played in the relationships end. So armed with these new ideas I felt very adult like until -

So there I was hanging out and chatting up this friend of a friend. "That's cool how you're ok with your bf going out and all," he says. Of course I thought of this like a mini badge - l had definately matured. Unti I learned that there were 10 rules in a relationship and in my effort to be relaxed, non controlling and very laid back - I had already botched these most coveted rules. However, before I started rethinking my new relationship tactics - I realized that this guy could not be considered a guru - he too had endured his share of drama and he currently felt the need to avoid any form of relationships. At least I was attempting to move on and find my way through adult relationships.

Which is when I wondered, why is it necessary to be a self proclaimed guru and if you become one shouldn't your record reflect recognizing previous mistakes, an interest in rectifying it and evidence where you are actually changing it? Is that such a difficult request? I am certainly not a guru and am always willing to throw my 2 cents worth in but I tend to like to have something back up my statements. But then again it is always easy to point out the errors of others. Maybe this is a random rant but one that shouldbe given out. We have all had friends or people we know do this off and on.

I don't believe that there are 'rules' although there are parameters that should be followed in the realm of relationships. Outside of that relationships tend to be like fingerprints - a lot of them are unique and can't be compared very easily. All you can go on your instincts. At the same time, know that most people are well meaning and provide their "advice" as a means to assist you; however, it is so easy to allow those comments to whisper in your ear and allow you to erode the foundation of your relationship. I suggest that mentally you sift through the information and weigh it against what you believe to be true. For me, I let all the questions that used to pop into my mind when people would "suggest" how I should handle my business recede. There are a lot of gurus but I'll take my chances and remain optimstic about what is in the future for myself and my cutie ;-)
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Kimmie
Founder Sikara Magazine & Sikara Designs
http://www.sikara.com

Are Connections that Hard to Make in NYC?

So of course I start my day/afternoon checking out Craigslist. I have to say it is my favorite website and really addicitive. You have to love a place that allows you to find a job, get an apartment and find something to do over the weekend. In fact you can even check out what other cities are up to. So of course, I found my boyfriend on there. But it makes me wonder, how can it be so hard to find people? In fact people are looking for friends in there as well. I have now found my way there in this area as well.

Living in a big city with endless possibilities is great but at the same time it can be overwhelming and difficult to make connections. The other day my boyfriend said that he wanted to meet my really good friends, after thinking about it I realized they are still in my home town or have migrated elsewhere. I talk to them on the phone a lot and keep them up to date. "Well you still have connections with them and they mean a lot in your everyday life and I have yet to meet them," he says. I felt horrible - I mean I live with my sister and since I commute to the city (while waiting to get an apartment that is just right) and I do not see her all the time either. More and more it is becoming evident that if I am excited about living in NYC, work there and have a bf there - it is time that I obtain and retain serious ties with people in the city.

Happily, I am glad to see that I am not alone. There are lots of girls and guys that want to expand their social circles and meet people as well. I hope that this summer I will be able to meet a lot of cool people. In the past I have had lots of guy friends and am now in the quest to find those ever elusive friends that were a part of Carrie & Co. So let's hope that in the midst of summer parties, shopping and night clubs there will be cool people that definately want to hang out and have a good time.

The best way to put a step forward in the right direction is to make it known that you are out there. Prior to Craigslist I didn't know that there are so many people out there that in the midst of doing what they wanted to, were unfufilled in the areas of significant others and friendship. I have found that placing an ad and allowing others to know about yourself will find people that are just like you waiting to meet. In addition, joining groups that introduce you to new activities or favored ones. So I say this to say if you're out there and want to hang out, drop a line and maybe we can make up a group :-)
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Kimmie
Founder Sikara Magazine & Sikara Designs
http://www.sikara.com

Feb 22, 2004

Online to Reality?

Ok so after posting I realized that there has to be some updates about me and I would rather look at the relationship side. I am one of those people that once upon a time I hated hanging out by myself. I always love hanging out in groups and doing things with others. In college for the most part, I had my bf at that time and our friends which guaranteed that I would always have someone around and if not then I would have uncomfortable weekends where I had nothing to do and no motivation. This changed with the hectic life of my final semesters where people graduated, I was single and had a huge class load. I found the simple joys in taking a walk browsing in stores and more.

Moving to the east coast was an interesting change. Over a period of months I found a groove and was happy to do this as a single girl and to learn what I wanted on my own and of course it hit me one day that I was ready to find Mr Right. In a city this large how hard could it be?

Little did I know that there should be a Guy Guide for finding a match in this city! It is so hard to meet people unless you have some friends or go through work and I found that this made me keep meeting the same types of people. This was really becoming frustrating. Typically I am the type that goes from one relationship to the next so I never have the benefit of a breather to see what it is that I truly want. Now that I was ready I kept finding people that I knew would not be of interest to me in the longterm.

Finally I decided that if you want something new you have to do something innovative. Debating the issue of using the Internet was a tough one. One would think that a 24 year old girl should not have a problem with this we are the Techie generation; however, I could not get the idea in my head that this was the path I was prepared to take until I realized that you find people at bars and people actually expect that to work so how could the Internet be that bad. So I turned to one of my favorite sites - Craigslist and sent out a request for good conversation at a coffeeshop - long story short I met a great guy! It didn't take long and we started dating.

The funny thing is as recently as yesterday my bf and I were on our way to a party. In the subway we bumped into one of his colleagues and we started talking - speaking of random this is another way that I'm sure people have met. Anyway, she asked the inevitable question "How'd you meet?" As he blushed I said on the Internet through Craigslist! Seeing that I was one of the biggest oponents to online dating, I can admit when I'm wrong and find it my personal mission to showcase my success story (I'd like to think). She was very intrigued and talked about on of her friends who had done the same thing and the way she explained it was analagous to someone describing the concept of TV to a room of people that had enjoyed their favorite soap operas on radio. It seemed so foreign. With all the sites online with matchmaking, hookups and more this is definately something of a mainstay.

How funny that people shy away from the idea.
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Kimmie
Founder Sikara Magazine & Sikara Designs
http://www.sikara.com

"Us vs Them": Which End Are You On?

There are moments when you wish you could step outside of your body and see what's going on around you. Maybe it's that time you and your friends were out celebrating someone getting a new job or getting their first place. Alone, these are monumental successes that deserve to be looked at - but what happens when you accept these challenges and realize that in choosing them, you have stepped to a more evolved you? Over the past few days I have seen this and realized that within a few hours I was no longer an "us" I was a "them"

The "us vs them" is something that happens all the time but no one thinks about it. I was introduced to this interesting balance in highschool during the Bacalaureate speeches before graduation. Our keynote speaker Kevin Kwanza (I hope I remembered that name right) explained in a very funny way that being an us meant those that had mastered highschool but by graduating we were leaving one version of "us" and became a "them". We were now the people that those behind us would dream of being while at the same time basking in their youth. I thought it was funny but who cared? I was going to college and there I left one group and became a newer "us". That was a great 4 years and after graduating there seems to be no smooth transition from leaving academia and moving into the "real world".

I have been in the real world since Dec 2002 and in that time I have made a lot of strides - I made my own company and also freelance at the same time. Off and on my mom would talk about how life doesn't work like it did in college. Many times she talked about how I still dressed like I was there and then some. I didn't seem to care until this week.

Lately, I have had to go to interviews and meet potential clients and after hearing my mother nag me I thought we would go shopping for these adult like clothes. I was a little nervous, I do want to dress for my business but I want to do it in a manner that I am still being represented. I loved the clothes can I just say that I am a fan of Rampage and XOXO and the clothes are not only hip but can work well in a work environment. As I passed my previous shopping havens, I felt like a mini traitor. I still liked the clothes but I suppose where I am going those items do not work. Later my boyfriend and I went out for a night.

I had been to a bar earlier in the year that we had a great time at. I did not realize that it was a college bar. Although people assume I am still in college, I was astounded that not only did I not have a great time, but that I was wondering about the maturity level of the people there - and then it hit me. I had become a "them". As much as I like to stay outside of the corporate structures and only work with them on a project basis, my styles and tastes have changed. I have started to assimilate into another group. I was the one out of place and after my first drink - we left.

In a blink of an eye it seems that collegiate Kimmie has truly embraced the entrepreneurial group and although I have set my own pace and style it is definately dictated by a more adult corporate structure. This when you step outside of yourself and realize how much you have changed and nothing is so stark then talking with friends from college that you do not see all the time. They struggle to understand who this person is and you realize how much you have evolved into something else. A transition - that's what college is supposed to be between highschool and your life afterwards. Instead it seems that you continue to transition for another period of years. I feel that I am still finishing with it as I look for an apartment and more.
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Kimmie
Founder Sikara Magazine & Sikara Designs
http://www.sikara.com

Nov 19, 2003

Just an Intro ...

So I have been single for a little over a year. Not because I don't want one but I know the enticing kinds of traps that can occur when you are in one. As comforting as it can be it also becomes addictive in the sense that you can't imagine how you were before you got into one. This in itself keeps you from thoughts of venturing into the beyond of possibilities.

Then one day you wake up and realize that you need to be on your own and as much as you are eager you realize that you're on your own. This is how I felt last year and you go through going out with the guys that you normally wouldn't just because you can. Of course for awhile it makes you feel very wanted and out there but somehow you may be yearning for something else even when you would rather not admit it.

So after struggling back and forth you get to the point where you can comfortably go out and date and you do not think of Mr X and then it hits you. You are in demand and as much as you attempt to lower that Mojo someone out there is interested in you. Maybe you even have two people that are so different but yet great for you that are out there what in the heck do you do?

This is how I feel right now. My name is Kimmie and I graduated about a year ago from college. I left my native Indiana and have moved to the east coast slightly outside of NYC (although I will be in the city soon - and I used to vacation here a lot so this is not completely a new experience) after breaking up with a great guy but realizing that maybe we were together for the wrong reason. I do a lot as far as work is concerned - I work in PR, do freelance visual merchandising, promote at some clubs and started my own magazine ( Sikara )online that is still being tweaked but is being received well.

So this past summer, I am getting into my new groove and enjoying everything that I had planned for the summer. I had someone that I was casually dating but since he was miles away we agreed that it would not be that serious. But one day I met him and he was just around the corner and my normal activities opened up. He allowed me to have fun and before long we were walking on relationship road. How this happened I don't know and to tell the story would fill this blog and really it wouldn't be that interesting. But all in all even when I attempted to fight it - I have begun to walk down this road. In a way it doesn't seem that scary and in other ways it does.

I really didn't have a direction for this blog I just wanted to introduce myself and see how this works. Expect to see these kinds of random items here and others. Many times I will write about relationships or what happens when I go out. This weekend should be great. I'm going out every night this weekend so there is bound to be some good things. I hope to get to know those who read this and read a lot of what is here :-).